Respect means to Re-Inspect; or to take a Second Look.
Often our First Look at something or someone is functional, utilitarian and practical. What or who is it? Often we use our ‘lenses’ to view the object or person. E.g.: what does this ________ mean to me (according to my history, culture, experience, religious views, world view etc.)? Sadly, often the first gaze is manipulative. We automatically interpret (intentionally or unintentionally) how we can use that person or object for our own objectives or gain. “Is this thing useful to me or not?” If it's not useful to me - I'll generally dismiss it. Sadly, when we dismiss it, or rush on by, we miss the beauty in these objects.
When we meet people, we make automatic assumptions about who they are in relation to ourselves. Are they better or worse? Richer or poorer? Smarter or uglier? What color are they? What religion are they? Do they share my views or not? Much of this in-built response originally had to do with safety; but sadly, in our modern society has become more about acceptability. Our judgments on ourselves or others all come from this First Look.
The Second Look, however, is to learn to see something apart from my world or my-self. It is a willingness to gently and kindly detach from my self-image or need. It has nothing to do with my preferences (whether I prefer this thing or that thing). It is to look at an object or person with respect. This person or object (even this situation) – no matter how perfect or imperfect, contains beauty and integrity if I allow myself to see it.
Even, and especially, if the "thing" in front of you is a situation or a person that is causing you discomfort; the Second Look is extremely important. Acknowledge the first look. What is triggering me about this person or situation? Where is my emotional reaction stemming from? Pause, Breathe. Take a physical or emotional step back. Take a second look - maybe from a different angle. Maybe get someone else to help you get a different perspective. When we acknowledge and move through the emotional reaction of the first look, then we are able to see differently and act from our wise mind. We get the gift of being able to see, experience and understand aspects that we couldn't before.
So, no matter what you have in front of you, allow yourself to take a Second Look.
Acknowledge all the input from your First Look. Sometimes this will be thoughts, feelings, memories or impulses. Its ok, it’s normal. Let it go. Return yourself to the present moment.
Re-Inspect what is in front of you. Look at the details. Allow yourself to feel wonder.
Note: try going for a walk in nature using the Second Look. Slow down. Really SEE things – it’s a wonderful experience!